Monday, August 11, 2014

Accomplishing A Goal

Last week I decided to do something that I haven't done in a long time. I started running again. I haven't ran since before Peter was born. I never ran far just a short distance because I didn't think I could run like other people.  I decided then that next year I was going to do a race that was at least 3k no more than 5K. Why you ask? Because to me it major accomplishment. I am half way there.

Most times as parents we put things aside because we have no time. We tend to our children and forget about ourselves in the process. We never take time for ourselves. I was talking one night at a Dads Nights Out with the NYC Dads Group to a dad name Joe about running because I saw a status on Facebook about him running. I asked him how does he find the time because he is a stay at home dad and is always busy.  His response was find the time and just do it. Joe you have been such an inspiration to me giving me hope that I will make my goal . Thank you. You are awesome!

Why do we give up on our goals? I think because it is easier to give up instead of pushing ourselves. That is with everything we do. You can do anything you put your mind to and be determined to complete the goal.  Even the smallest goal can be accomplished. Just when you think you can't someone or something drives you.

The next time someone tells you that you can't do something remember anything is possilble with determination and support. I have both in accomplishing my goal of running a race.


Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Playing hooky from work

Peter and I were do for a daddy/son adventure so on Monday of this past week I decided to take a daddy day to spend the day with my son Peter. I didn't feel guilty about taking time off of work because I feel that sometimes I miss a lot of his accomplishments. This also gave time for my wife Kate to have some time to herself. I know my co-workers will see this but hopefully they will understand. My job has some flexibility as I work for the City of New York and I am a permanent employee so I am luckier than most other dads who might have to worry about losing their jobs or risking not getting a promotion because they are not at work.

I was thinking, "what should we do?', "where should we go?". I was undecided because the weather was also a factor. It was summer which could mean possibly very hot or stormy weather. I told Peter that we were going on an adventure. Just him and me. I asked him what he wanted to do. He said that he wanted to go to the park which he always wants to do. We got dressed and I decided to take him into Manhattan or as us locals call it the city because there are more things to see and do. We live in the borough of Queens so it would take at least 40 minutes to an hour to get there. We decided to go to Central Park to go to the worlds famous Central Park Zoo and have some fun in the park itself.

Peter loves to take the buses and trains into the city. He always tells me especially when we are on the trains he wants to visit me at work and when he sees the skyline of the city he tells me Daddy works there. On the train ride that day he talked about when he gets older he wants to work in the city just like his father. He looks up to me. He showed me the skyscrapers and talked about how tall they are and made up names for then even though some of them are landmark buildings. I didn't correct him because we having fun. It is the greatest feeling in the world when you see your child happy. He loves to have fun and so do I. I am a child at heart even though I am turning 50 this year. It is great to know that your child has your sense of humor and is following in your footsteps. That day I realized we have a lot more in common then I thought.

We walked and ran into the park on the way to the zoo. This time we made up names for statues, trees and buildings. We even saw a man who made gigantic bubbles. I asked my son what is his name out of curiosity as we were walking towards him. My son called him Bubble Man Sam. We laughed so hard. I had tears in my eyes. I called him Bubba the Bubble Man. He laughed just as hard as I did. My son did not call this man this name nor did I to his face because that is just cruel. We are not bullies and do not believe in that. A child with a sense of humor is priceless. It was all in good fun and nobody got hurt in the process. He did not mention that name ever again. He ran to try to pop the bubbles but they were just so big that they would pop before he even touched them. I was so proud and happy that my son was having so much fun spending time with his dad. It was very special.

When we finally got to the zoo Peter was so excited to see all of the animals. the first thing he did was run to the sea lions. I had to say, "Peter wait." I had to run after him. He mimicked the sound of the sea lions. There were two of them. He name them George and Sally. we stayed there for a couple of minutes because he was so interested in them and amazed by them. I had to read to him the sign about the sea lions. I don't know if he understood what I was saying but my son was very curious. We then ventured to see the penguins. They were inside of a building. There was a glacier and water for them to swim. You can see underneath the water. My son ran up to the glass and watched them swim by. He kept saying, "look daddy look at the penguins". We booth stood there in awe. We saw a mother penguin and their child cuddling. My son said it was like daddy and him. It was another moment when I realized my son enjoys the time he spends with me even if it just cuddling.

We made our way to the children's zoo. It is very interactive. They had a net made into a spiders web that children can climb on. My son even convinced me to climb on it but once other children came over I got off because it said it was only for children. I broke a rule. There was also a hallow tree trunk that children can crawl into to be close to some animals. I tried but I could not fit and almost got stuck so I got out. My son loved it and so did I. I became a kid again.

After the zoo we went to two of the playgrounds to let Peter run around and have more fun also to tire him out. No such luck. One of the parks have a giant slide built into the rocks and made out of smooth rocks which Peter loved. The first time he went down it he flew off of it and landed on his butt. You can tell he was very scared and he hesitated about going on it again and did not cry. He went on two more times. I almost went on it but I did not. The next time I will. I did not because I was getting tired. He did have a ball at the two parks and I did promise him a park but he got two.

Then we stopped by the boathouse and saw people rowing row boats. He told me in his own words when he gets older he will row a boat with me in it and I can sit back and enjoy. I then realized that eventually my son will grow up and I could of missed out on may opportunities if I didn't take off of work occasionally. we spent the entire day out full of fun. A full day at work if I was there. It was the best day in a long time. Do I reget taking a day off even though I had a lot of work to do. Absolutely not it was worth it for my son and especially me.





Monday, July 28, 2014

Introducing Teddy Spaghetti- Book Review

Introducing Teddy Spaghetti is a childrens book written by Diane Zizzo. The story is about Teddy who likes to do things but best of all he liked to eat spaghetti. Teddy is Diane's real dog who the book is based on. This book is written as a rhyming story because Diane loves to write poetry and always has. It is very cute and sweet. Children will love it. It is one of my sons favorite new books to read . It is worth taking a look at. Each page has paw print borders on them. There is even a page  to draw a friend for Teddy and a page to draw your own pet. The illustrations are draw by Earlene Gayle Escalona. The publishing company is Xlibris LLC. You can get it in Softcover and  Ebook. Hardcovers are limited editions. They are available online at Amazon.com,  Barnesandnoble.com and all other major bookstores.
       Here is the real Teddy and his book.

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Feeling Guilty

As a dad I never thought I would feel guilty about anything with my son. I usually don't but things have changed recently due to an event that happened this past weekend. Which made me feel awful and very upset

It started out as a wonderful day. It was warm and sunny. We were out to Long Island for the weekend. My sister in law went to go to her parents upstate. My brother in law works nights and did not go upstate with my sister in law so myself and my wife with Peter went there to watch my niece. We were debaiting what to do. Should we go strawberry picking on a farm out in Riverhead?  Should we go to Splish Splash which is a waterpark for the day? Or Should we go to Adventureland which is a Amusement Park.

When we mentioned Adventureland to my niece her eyes lit up with excitement. To those who think they have heard the name Adventureland. A movie was made in 2009 about a college graduate who works at an amusement park in 1987 . Jesse Eisenberg played the starring role. The movie was written by Greg Matolla who lived and grew up in Long Island. He use to go to that amusement park as a kid.

The day was going well. We were all having fun. Peter and my niece were going on all of the kiddie rides. Then myself, my wife Kate, Peter and my niece went on all of the family rides  Then myself and my niece would go on the big rides. God Bless my niece because she went on most of the rides with me. I love her very much and did not pressure her to go on anything she did not want to. She loved the log flume and the spinning swings. We went on the log flume 4 times in a row. It was hot out it felt good.  We rode the swings 3 times. I love all kinds of rides. I felt like a teenager again.

I decided to go on the teacups with my niece and Peter. The ride started and we were laughing having a good time. I started spinning the car slow. Then I started to spin the teacup faster. The teenager in me came out. I spun the teacup very fast. I didn't realize that the force would take down my son.  Peter flew forward and hit his head first on the wheel that you spin. Flew back and clocked the back of his head on the back of the seat. Then went down on the seat. I grabbed him first then tried to stop the teacup from spinning. Everyone knows that it is very hard to stop them from spinning. I thought I killed him. He was okay he just laughed. I almost started to cry.

I never felt so guilty. I didn't think and I could of hurt my own child who I love more than anything in this world. It still haunts me because I have never done anything that would endanger my child or hurt him because he is too precious to me. I still see the image in my head what happened and what could of happened. I know the guilt will disappear eventually and I know that there might be more times were I will feel guilty but thats when you realize that you are not a perfect parent.



Thursday, July 3, 2014

5 Things I have learned since becoming a Dad

The first thing I have learned since becoming a dad is having patience. Ever since my son Peter was born I have learned to have patience. The older he gets the more patience I need to have. As an adult you seem to lose patience the older you get but by having children you learn quickly that things take time with them and it takes time for them to accomplish tasks.

The second thing I have learned since becoming a dad is showing more love.  I thought I knew what love was. Love comes in many different ways and forms but when my son was born I never experienced the love I have for him. Love is the greatest gift God could of given us and every day I see more love from my son with kisses, hugs and I love you Daddy which makes me do and show it more.

The third thing I have learned since becoming a dad is showing more politeness - Even before my son was born I was polite to people but since he was born it is even more instilled in me. Please, Thank You, Your Welcome. I do not force my son to say it in order to get something or do something in return. I show him how nice you can be to someone. Politeness is lost in children these days because parents don't institute it. I want my son to be respectful to everyone regardless of people's disrespect for other's.

The fourth thing I have learned since becoming a dad is being disciplined, you read that right. Ever since my son was able to talk. I have learned to have discipline. Children hears and sees how a person acts and what a person says. They are sponges and pick up things fast even though you think that they are not listening. Children even mimic every move you make. I am now very cautious about what I say especially cursing and my actions.

The fifth thing I have learned since becoming a dad is sharing. My son shares this toys and things with everyone. When I mean sharing I mean time. The term sharing is caring makes me laugh because it is so very true. Sharing time with a child and a wife are two different things. Although I love spending time with my spouse, nothing compares with time alone with your child especially if you work full time. I take off whenever I can to give my wife some time alone and do things with my son. I enjoy it very much and look forward to a lifetime of sharing.

These are the 5 things I have learned since becoming a dad. I am sure there will be more things to come  just as my son grows up and gets older.

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

What is a Dad?

According  to Websters Dictionary the defintion of a Dad is a father. You ask what is a Father? According to the Websters Dictionary, a father is a male parent. This is too vague for me. To be a father is far more than a male parent. Anyone can a father but to be called a dad is far more special.

Dads have been portraited on tv shows, in movies and books in different ways. Some are positive and some are negatitive sometimes giving a good or bad rap to the role of a dad. Sterotyping is also used causing people to blur the lines of reality of being a dad.

Some dads want to have nothing to do with their children for different reasons. Any male figure in their lives can be a father to them. Uncles, Grandfathers usually step up to take the role of a dad. Even when a person remarries sometimes the stepfather is more of a dad than their birth father.

A fathers role in a child's life is very important regardless of who the father figure is. If he is nurturing, loving, full of support, gives lots of wisdom and advice, makes you feel safe.  This is what a dad is.

I have the best dad in the world. He has gone above and beyond what a father is. He has been all of the above and more.  As a child I had the perfect childhood. My friends use to call my house the Cleavers. You know the tv show , Leave it to Beaver. Anyway my dad was a city worker who worked hard to provide for his family. He always helped my mother with everything when we were small. He use to start to cook because he would be home from work before her. He would also help clean. He and my mom both instilled morales and values which have benefited myself and my sister over the years .He is also the best Grandfather in the world to Peter. Because of him I am the man and father that I am today. He is loving , caring, always being supportive. He gives me advice still till this day which I appreciate even more.  What is a dad you ask? You are looking at one.

Happy Father's Day to all of you Dads!