Sunday, September 25, 2016

Father's Day Nightmare





Last year on Father's Day, I thought it was going to be a day where I enjoy the day with family siting by poolside. Instead  my son was sick and I had to stay home with him while my wife worked. This happens when your child is around children all the time.

The day started out fine knowing that Peter was sick. As the day progressed he seemed to be getting worse. His fever started out low and rose as the day went by. In the late afternoon the fever went to 104. I started to get nervous. His fevers have never been that high. I kept giving him medicine to bring the temperature down but nothing was working.

He started to cough lightly which did not alarm me. It was a normal cough at the beginning. I would ask him," How do you feel?" He would respond, "Not too well daddy." I would keep my eyes glued to him. As the day progressed his cough got bad. It was a hacking cough that sounded like it was coming from the toes.

He decided to take a nap which is very unusual for him because he rarely takes them. He fights them. He slept for a good two hours. When he woke up he was crying but nothing was coming out and he was gasping for air. He was also coughing. It really scared the crap out of me but I kept very calm.

I scooped him up and said to Kate, "let's go to the hospital". Both of us panicked and were very worried. I was more calm than Kate was. You can see in Peters eyes he was very scared and was panicking. He held on and started to relax which made him breathe easier. It felt like the longest car ride to the hospital but was very short.

When we got to the hospital all of his information was already in the system because it was the hospital he was born in. The hospital did some tests. They checked his lungs. He had a hacking cough.

The hospital ended up giving him a nebulizer and medicine. He ended up having croup and strider. 

Croup is a respiratory condition that is usually triggered by an acute viral infection of the upper airway. This infection leads to swelling inside the throat which interferes with breathing causing a barking cough.

Stridor is associated with croup but for Peter his voice box swelled which caused him to wheeze.

After about 6 hours in the hospital. He was released. He did not have any reaction to any of the medicine they game him. Myself and Kate were grateful.

We do not know how and where he caught this. It could be from anywhere. We are just glad that he was well taken care of.

And for Me and Kate it was the most scariest things we have dealt with as parents so far even though it was Father's Day I felt that even though we weren't celebrating like most. We were together as a family and when you are a parent Father's and Mother's Day is everyday. Twenty four hours a day seven days a week for the rest of my life.





Sunday, September 4, 2016

Fun Adventure with The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles




Peter had been a really well behaved child this past Friday due to the fact that he spent most of the evening with us at the hospital. My mother in law fell in an elevator and clocked her head against rail and the floor causing a concussion.

We decided to treat him to a fun filled day at the Liberty Science Center in New Jersey because we knew about The Teenage Ninja Turtle Exhibit called Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Secret of the Sewers 

When we arrived Peter saw a poster in the elevator about the exhibit with the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. Peter has been watching the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles recently and loves the show so this was a perfect way to experience all of the things about The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.




There are lots of interactive exhibits and things to do for the entire family. Children can put on a Gi and show their favorite Ninja moves. Children and Parents can put pipes together to create drain pipes. You all can pose in front of your favorite Ninja Turtle.You can also test you balance by riding a skateboard.



                                                                   Peter with Leonardo.                    


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There are pipes that you can look in from the sewers to the street and see all of The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles










 You can play an interactive game with 4 players were each person plays a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle and help navigate The Turtle Van through the streets against time. It matches the colors to each Mutant Ninja Turtle to certain moves of the van. Each player has a major role in controlling the van.










You can shoot a pizza through a window at you favorite Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle Villain. You have to aim this machine at the window. There are four windows to choose from. We only had one shot because this exhibit was very busy but we were able to do this five more times by getting back in line which moved fast.






There is a rope maze that when you hit the rope an alarm triggered off. My son loved this exhibit. It was a challenge not to step on or hit the rope with your body. The exhibit was lots of fun. I even saw adults trying because their children convinced them to. I had no luck not triggering off the alarm.  I am flexible but not that much.




 It was an awesome day at the Liberty Science Center.  We spent most of the day at this exhibit because Peter was having a ball. This exhibit made Peter love The Teenage Ninja Turtles even more. If you are a fan of the show this exhibit is fun.This exhibit is going nation wide. It closes at the Liberty Science Center on September 5, 2016.  It will be coming to a city near you.

Peter fell asleep in the car ride home. Peter probably was dreaming of having a new adventure with The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. When he woke up all he did was talk about his adventure that day.  When we got home all he wanted to do is tell his grandparents about the exhibit.

The Liberty Science Center is a 50 minutes car ride from our house in Queens, NY   If you live in Manhattan it is a hop, skip and a jump away. It is across the water from Downtown Manhattan.You can  reach there by mass transit, NJ Transit or a Ferry from the Financial Center in Downtown Manhattan if you do not have a car.


Disclaimer: I did not get paid for this nor did I receive tickets to The Liberty Science Center. This my opinion of an awesome day with my son Peter.








Wednesday, September 30, 2015

My Personal Journey



























Last year when I turned 49 I decide that I was going to run a race when I turned 50. That goal was completed before I turned 50. It has been a journey and a personal thing. Last year in my wildest dreams did I ever think I could do a major accomplishment by running a 5k. A 5k I will never forget. The Tunnel to Towers 5k run/walk. This race was started by the Stephen Siller Foundation. Stephen Siller was a firefighter who ran from Brooklyn through the Battery Tunnel with his gear on to help people who were caught in the World Trade Center on 9/11. Stephen Siller died that day. This race is in memory of him, NYFD, NYPD, Miltary and First Responders.

My journey has been a long one. Almost a whole year of training for something that I put my heart and soul into. Sometimes giving up when things were hard, especially when I couldn't meet my goal for the day. I was being hard on myself because I never thought I would make my goal and achieve a personal victory. I have tried to run for years but always gave up on myself. I never pushed myself because it is easier to quit than to keep on going.

I did this race not only because of a goal and a personal journey. I have been personally affected by 9/11. I was one of the last two people to see PO Perry that morning who came to my office to retire. He joked around with me and another co worker saying the paperwork was hot off the press to retire. We laughed for a while and then he left. The first plane hit the first tower. From what I learn PO Perry  ran from our building which is about 3 or four blocks from the World Trade Center on an angle.  I never saw him again. He died that day. Instead of thinking of himself and retirement, he thought of others who needed help. A true hero. A person who sacrificed everything for the call of the job. I will never forget him and that day.

The Tunnel to Towers run itself also effected
me. I saw many wounded warriors. Men and women who risk their lives at war. Those members of the military who lost limbs, in wheel chairs who can't walk. I saw flags off firefighters who died on 9/11. I saw family member of people who died that horrible day. All of them inspired me and touched me. It is easier to see it on tv then to deal with it in person. The only thing I could say was Thank You with a handshake or a a pat on the back of the vets. This made me wipe tears from my eyes and was life changing. The change was not to take things for granted, enjoy life, and continue to appreciate what I have. 

Who knows what my next personal journey will be, will be be a long journey or a short journey. Will I succeed or will I fail? Who knows but I am ready.

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Bring Your Child to Work Day Revisited.

Bring your Child to work day was not originally started the way it is celebrated today. It was originally started in 1993 by the Ms. Foundation for Women. The intent was to introduce girls direction and insight into the work world. Now they include boys because they are interested in seeing were their mothers or fathers work. 

One day back in March at my son's daycare another child asked my son if his mommy or daddy was bring him to work on that special day. He did no know about it because he is younger than some of the other children that go there.  Peter is only three and a half and the child who asked him is 5 years old. When he came home from daycare he asked us if he could come to work with me or my wife. Where my wife works is really not the best place to have children. She works in the offices of a cemetery. So I decided to take him with me because I work for the NYPD at their headquarters and I knew that the department would be doing something for the children. My office was so excited to see Peter because the last time people saw him he was only one and a half.

He was very quiet at the beginning which is normal for a child going to a strange place. He warmed up and was a delight to all of the people in the office. He sat at my desk and saw all the things that I have from him including drawing and pictures of him. He ate his breakfast and enjoyed being at daddy's work.


My office did not have anything special that day but the department themselves went all out. Lots of things to see and do.
We spent half of the day doing all of the activities that were set up.

First we took portraits of us and then Peter by himself. They were done by our Photo Unit which has professional photographers. 

We then went down to the court section where they bring in people who are being arrested. Peter sat in a patty wagon and was walked to the cells. They then gave him a metal detector wand to see if I had metal on me. It beeped. They showed him the big holding cell and gave him a box of cereal. They explained that the cereal is what they give them when people are brought in the morning.


We then proceeded outside. There was a  rock wall for the kids to climb, horses for the children to ride, old police cars and police motorcycles. We waited on the line for Peter to ride the horses but when the horse brought his head down to Peter he became scared. He did not want to ride the horse then. We walked over to the rock wall and Peter wanted to go in it but the spaces were too big for him to reach to pull himself up. I promised him next year he will be able to do it. We went to the old police cars next. He really enjoyed them. We actually got inside if one. Then Peter asked me to sit in the back. I did and told him I never want to see him in the back seat of a police car. He faked driving me around.

The next thing Peter became excited about was sitting on a motorcycle. He made believe he was out in the open air driving on the highway. He really like it. It took me a half an hour to get him off the motorcycle. 

It was a day Peter will never forget. A day full of fun for him. He asked me if he could come back the next day. I had to explain to him that all of the activities that went on the day before was only that one day and he would have to wait until next year.

Did I get any work done that day? The only work I accomplished that day was turning on my computer but what I accomplished was that my son got to see where I work and it made him happy.

Sunday, March 1, 2015

Growing fast with lots of love

I can't believe how time flies. Just yesterday you were a little baby and now you are three years old. I remember the day that you were born. You came 4 weeks earlier. You were ready to begin your life with us.

I remember that day like it was yesterday. In the middle of the night around 2 am on October 20th. You started making  your journey into our lives. It was the best day of my life knowing that you came from me and mommy with lots of love.  It was 11 years of trying without success . Stress and the realization that being an aunt and uncle was becoming the reality, Then it happened. Oh my God. Mommy was pregnant. I truly believe that you chose us as your parents. God must of know what he was doing when he decided to bless us later on in life with you. The joys and fears of being parents at an older age hit. Am I going to be  a good father? Am I going to be able to keep up with you? Those fears lasted until the day that you were born. Once you were here I knew with lots of love things would be okay.

As you started growing and understanding love, you've shown me more love than I could of ever imagined. I love your mother very much but in a different way. Love comes in many forms. I know your love is pure as snow.  As you grow no matter how much you might make me mad for doing something wrong. I will always love you and guide you in the right direction. Our love and bond will grow as you grow up. Even though you are still young. You have a big heart. I see it and so does your mom. You show so much love it makes me proud to say you are my son.

As the years continue and your love grows you will eventually grow up. You will eventually become a man and hopefully get married to whom ever you want too. If you are blessed to have a family you will understand what love of a child is just like your father.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

New Year Resolutions

Every year around this time most people make new years resolutions. Some of the most popluar resolutions are to be healthier, go to the gym more often, lose weight. Some peoples resolutions are not to curse, be nicer, volunteer their time.

I use to make New Years resolutions evey year and never accomplished them. I am sure most people don't accomplish them. This year I am going to make some  resolutions based on one thing, my son.

The number one resolution is to have more patience. I thought I had it but the older my son gets the faster I lose it. I need to relax and take it slow.

The number two resolution is not to be frustrated. It is easy to lose your temper when things don't go well especially with children. Sometime you tell a child to do something and the don't listen or follow through.

The number three resolution is to listen to advice from my dad. One dad to another. As adults we think we know it all and we don't . Sometime parents give advice to their children about your children. The years of experience outway mine. I should listen and then make decisions.

What ever resolutions you make. I hope you keep them. I will try to do my best to keep them and remember that another year is over and a new one is beginning.

Happy New Year! 





Friday, December 12, 2014

Horrible Three's

In October our son turned 3 years old. I thought we were out of the woods with the terrible two's. I was so wrong. I am calling this the Horrible Three's because it is worse than the Terrible Two's. It has been a big challenge because now Peter is more challenging, more verbal, and worst of all more physical. It is just horrible. I hope this faze goes by fast even though I know the older they get the bigger the problems are.

It started just after his birthday, just two days into being three. He has become a little monster. I have seen a big change that I cant believe is going on. He has a temper now which was never shown before. He is also defiant. My patience has never been short until now. I can see why some parents end up killing their children unintentionally.


You will tell him not to do something. He will look at you and do exactly what you say not to do with a big smile on his face and mock you just with the smile. I get so upset because I know he is pushing my buttons and I just walk away.  I get so mad. I should not walk away. I should attack it right away to prevent it from happening again. I have to think before I react. That is my problem.

The worst part about the whole thing is that we try not to give him everything he wants. He is our only son and it took 11 years to have him. I try not to spoil him but I can see how parents spoil their children without even realizing it.  Everything on TV he wants and says, "I want that" or "Buy me that". I do not cave in most times.

He started to go to daycare in October. He loves going there. He has adjust well I thought. Yesterday the daycare teacher has said that he has been very aggressive in the last two day He is hittng, kicking children. We can not figure out why. He even bit a younger girl. My wife and myself reached out to the parents of the other child. It was nothing serious and no skin broken but I am worried that this will get out of control. I don't know if it is because he can not express himself or he gets frustrated. We asked him and he said, "yes". He said he did not like two younger children. I hope he out grows this fast.

I am hoping that the horrible three's go by fast and hope that 4's are fantastic. I am praying and doing the best that I can to help him through this rough time but I know this is growing pains of being a toddler.




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