Tuesday, December 30, 2014

New Year Resolutions

Every year around this time most people make new years resolutions. Some of the most popluar resolutions are to be healthier, go to the gym more often, lose weight. Some peoples resolutions are not to curse, be nicer, volunteer their time.

I use to make New Years resolutions evey year and never accomplished them. I am sure most people don't accomplish them. This year I am going to make some  resolutions based on one thing, my son.

The number one resolution is to have more patience. I thought I had it but the older my son gets the faster I lose it. I need to relax and take it slow.

The number two resolution is not to be frustrated. It is easy to lose your temper when things don't go well especially with children. Sometime you tell a child to do something and the don't listen or follow through.

The number three resolution is to listen to advice from my dad. One dad to another. As adults we think we know it all and we don't . Sometime parents give advice to their children about your children. The years of experience outway mine. I should listen and then make decisions.

What ever resolutions you make. I hope you keep them. I will try to do my best to keep them and remember that another year is over and a new one is beginning.

Happy New Year! 

Friday, December 12, 2014

Horrible Three's

In October our son turned 3 years old. I thought we were out of the woods with the terrible two's. I was so wrong. I am calling this the Horrible Three's because it is worse than the Terrible Two's. It has been a big challenge because now Peter is more challenging, more verbal, and worst of all more physical. It is just horrible. I hope this faze goes by fast even though I know the older they get the bigger the problems are.

It started just after his birthday, just two days into being three. He has become a little monster. I have seen a big change that I cant believe is going on. He has a temper now which was never shown before. He is also defiant. My patience has never been short until now. I can see why some parents end up killing their children unintentionally.

You will tell him not to do something. He will look at you and do exactly what you say not to do with a big smile on his face and mock you just with the smile. I get so upset because I know he is pushing my buttons and I just walk away.  I get so mad. I should not walk away. I should attack it right away to prevent it from happening again. I have to think before I react. That is my problem.

The worst part about the whole thing is that we try not to give him everything he wants. He is our only son and it took 11 years to have him. I try not to spoil him but I can see how parents spoil their children without even realizing it.  Everything on TV he wants and says, "I want that" or "Buy me that". I do not cave in most times.

He started to go to daycare in October. He loves going there. He has adjust well I thought. Yesterday the daycare teacher has said that he has been very aggressive in the last two day He is hittng, kicking children. We can not figure out why. He even bit a younger girl. My wife and myself reached out to the parents of the other child. It was nothing serious and no skin broken but I am worried that this will get out of control. I don't know if it is because he can not express himself or he gets frustrated. We asked him and he said, "yes". He said he did not like two younger children. I hope he out grows this fast.

I am hoping that the horrible three's go by fast and hope that 4's are fantastic. I am praying and doing the best that I can to help him through this rough time but I know this is growing pains of being a toddler.