Growing fast with lots of love

I can't believe how time flies. Just yesterday you were a little baby and now you are three years old. I remember the day that you were born. You came 4 weeks earlier. You were ready to begin your life with us.

I remember that day like it was yesterday. In the middle of the night around 2 am on October 20th. You started making  your journey into our lives. It was the best day of my life knowing that you came from me and mommy with lots of love.  It was 11 years of trying without success . Stress and the realization that being an aunt and uncle was becoming the reality, Then it happened. Oh my God. Mommy was pregnant. I truly believe that you chose us as your parents. God must of know what he was doing when he decided to bless us later on in life with you. The joys and fears of being parents at an older age hit. Am I going to be  a good father? Am I going to be able to keep up with you? Those fears lasted until the day that you were born. Once you were here I knew with lots of love things would be okay.

As you started growing and understanding love, you've shown me more love than I could of ever imagined. I love your mother very much but in a different way. Love comes in many forms. I know your love is pure as snow.  As you grow no matter how much you might make me mad for doing something wrong. I will always love you and guide you in the right direction. Our love and bond will grow as you grow up. Even though you are still young. You have a big heart. I see it and so does your mom. You show so much love it makes me proud to say you are my son.

As the years continue and your love grows you will eventually grow up. You will eventually become a man and hopefully get married to whom ever you want too. If you are blessed to have a family you will understand what love of a child is just like your father.

New Year Resolutions

Every year around this time most people make new years resolutions. Some of the most popluar resolutions are to be healthier, go to the gym more often, lose weight. Some peoples resolutions are not to curse, be nicer, volunteer their time.

I use to make New Years resolutions evey year and never accomplished them. I am sure most people don't accomplish them. This year I am going to make some  resolutions based on one thing, my son.

The number one resolution is to have more patience. I thought I had it but the older my son gets the faster I lose it. I need to relax and take it slow.

The number two resolution is not to be frustrated. It is easy to lose your temper when things don't go well especially with children. Sometime you tell a child to do something and the don't listen or follow through.

The number three resolution is to listen to advice from my dad. One dad to another. As adults we think we know it all and we don't . Sometime parents give advice to their children about your children. The years of experience outway mine. I should listen and then make decisions.

What ever resolutions you make. I hope you keep them. I will try to do my best to keep them and remember that another year is over and a new one is beginning.

Happy New Year! 

Horrible Three's

In October our son turned 3 years old. I thought we were out of the woods with the terrible two's. I was so wrong. I am calling this the Horrible Three's because it is worse than the Terrible Two's. It has been a big challenge because now Peter is more challenging, more verbal, and worst of all more physical. It is just horrible. I hope this faze goes by fast even though I know the older they get the bigger the problems are.

It started just after his birthday, just two days into being three. He has become a little monster. I have seen a big change that I cant believe is going on. He has a temper now which was never shown before. He is also defiant. My patience has never been short until now. I can see why some parents end up killing their children unintentionally.


You will tell him not to do something. He will look at you and do exactly what you say not to do with a big smile on his face and mock you just with the smile. I get so upset because I know he is pushing my buttons and I just walk away.  I get so mad. I should not walk away. I should attack it right away to prevent it from happening again. I have to think before I react. That is my problem.

The worst part about the whole thing is that we try not to give him everything he wants. He is our only son and it took 11 years to have him. I try not to spoil him but I can see how parents spoil their children without even realizing it.  Everything on TV he wants and says, "I want that" or "Buy me that". I do not cave in most times.

He started to go to daycare in October. He loves going there. He has adjust well I thought. Yesterday the daycare teacher has said that he has been very aggressive in the last two day He is hittng, kicking children. We can not figure out why. He even bit a younger girl. My wife and myself reached out to the parents of the other child. It was nothing serious and no skin broken but I am worried that this will get out of control. I don't know if it is because he can not express himself or he gets frustrated. We asked him and he said, "yes". He said he did not like two younger children. I hope he out grows this fast.

I am hoping that the horrible three's go by fast and hope that 4's are fantastic. I am praying and doing the best that I can to help him through this rough time but I know this is growing pains of being a toddler.




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Adventures In Potty Sitting

It has been a long road. A road that began a while ago. A question to answer too. Do we teach him to stand up or sit down on the potty. This question has been asked before. There are many that say let sit first and then stand. Others have said let him stand. What do we do?

Peter was always curious about going to the bathroom. He would always try to get into the bathroom anytime I was in there. He had a fascination about going to the bathroom. "Why does daddy stand and mommy sit?", he would ask. I would have to explain to him in the simplest way. Mommies and daddies have different organs that we use for going to the bathroom. That's why daddies stand and mommies sit when going pee pee on the potty.

We decided to make him sit at the beginning of his potty training because it was just easier on the little playschool potty. Now he is standing on the regular toilet bowl sometimes. It depends on his mood. He is definitely sitting on the playschool potty. I am sure that if he stood by the playschool potty he would pee all over the floor, the walls and me.

He refused to poop on the potty. I am trying to have patients with this. He holds it and then goes in his underpants. I have caught him once and was able to get him on the potty. I ask him why he does not want to go on the potty and he changes the subject. I can believe it because he is only three years old. My wife and myself do not want to put pressure on him to poop on the potty.

He is finally starting to poop on the potty now. We are so proud of him because sometimes it is like a road that constantly curves without a straight road or sometimes it is like a circle, never ending. We encourage him constantly and give him praise for the accomplishment.

Just as soon as we got him into a routine. He started daycare which made him revert back a bit because there are children that are littler than him. He sees them in diapers so he figures why can't he go in his underpants, There are also children older than him. The reason he also doesn't want to go to the bathroom is because he believes he will miss out on a lot of playing. When he went in his  underpants he felt embarrassed. The older children would also encourage him. After a two week adjustment he went back on the potty. Yeah!

It has been an adventure and a challenge for all of us and will continue to potty train as much as we can. There have been ups and downs on this road. It may be the I don't know what potty to go on adventure, or the stand or sit adventure, or the pooping adventure. We will encourage him and hope that this adventure will end soon because a new adventure will begin.

Rad Dad Tees Giveaway

Rad Dad Tee's are cool and unique tee shirts for Dads to proclaim their Dad-hood. If you are a Rad Dad these tee shirts are for you.

Each Rad Dad Tee is make with American Apparel Tee Shirts. They are one hundred percent cotton except for their heather grey ones.  They are ninety percent cotton, ten percent polyester. These tee shirts are made here in USA. 

Each tee shirts designs are fun and different. I love the stamp on the inside of the backside of the shirt. Not only does it it tell the size . It tells you to wash it inside  out to protect the graphics. Here it also says," 100% Cotton, 200% Comfy" which is true. I also like the four lines written for a positive attitude. It says, "Today, I am going to be the best dad I can be. Then, I'll do it again tomorrow.". There is also a label with instructions how to make this shirt last longer which made me laugh. It states to wash the tee shirt inside out, tumble try low or hang dry. Failure to do so will cause the tee shirt to explode.

Everytime I wear my tee shirt people always ask me where I got it. I tell them Rad Dad Tees which is online. I have the SuperDad one. It is a picture of an image of superman flying through the city. On his face he has eye glasses and sports a mustache. The logo on this chest has the initials SD which stands for SuperDad.  It also says SuperDad under him flying above the city.. The graphics are great and so are the colors. The shirt is in the color of superman blue. 

Yes I am a Dad and yes I like to show off my Dad-Hood  by wearing this fun and unique tee shirt.

Two lucky winners will recieve a Rad Dad Tee in my first ever Giveaway.

Thank you Rad Dad Tee's. You are Awesome!

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Road Trip with a toddler Part 2 The Voyage Home

We left Beavers Dam NY a day ago still dreading the 5 hour car ride home. We left at 11:30 am which I knew was a bad idea because when we would get caught up in rush hour traffic. We did it took 7 1/2 hours to get home back to Queens. Peter was a real trooper again with an even longer ride. 

All during our journey Peter has been on  road potty training too. He is almost fully potty trained at home but on the road it has been a challenge. He did better than I expected. He told us each time and we would pull over to a rest stop and go into the bathroom. Afterwards I would sing his potty song that I made up. He would sing and dance to it. 

Anyway our travels with Peter in the car were great and I am hoping our next adventure will be just as good. Hopefully our next trip will be on a plane. Fingers crossed that that trip will be just as good.

Road trip with a Toddler Part 1

Summer is almost over and Kate and I decided to take a trip up to Kate's parents house in Beavers Dam NY because we haven't seen them in a while.  Beavers Dam NY is about 5 hours in western NY state. It feels like forever to get there. The only thing I could think about is dreading getting into a car for a long trip with a child who doesn't like really long car rides and wants go get out of his car seat all the time. Oh let the stress begin.

Yesterday we began our adventure traveling a little more than half way. We left Queens about 10:30 am and headed to out destination. Kate is an excellent packer. She packed for herself and for Peter which made it easier.  She packed some of his favorite toys including a dvd player so he can have some inflight movies and some of his computerized toys to keep him occupied with learning.

The reason we went more than half way is because it was a lot for Peter sitting in the car seat and on Kate because I do not drive. Long story. We stopped in Binghamton for a overnight at a hotel which Peter loved to explore. It was a basic room but had everything we needed just to sleep and continue in the morning.

This morning we continued on our adventure heading to Beaver Dam NY. Yes we made it and are going on many adventures with the family and my in laws the next couple of days. I am glad we made it without any really bad incidents with Peter. He is a real trooper. This is the longest car ride he has ever been on and hope the trip back to Queens will be just as pleasant as the road trip up here.